In the face of the current changes in the structure of the family in our culture, this book explains why family continues to be so central to our lives.
FAMILY: How the Human Need for Belonging Shapes Our Lives
by Meredith F. Small
Pegasus, Fall 2026
(via Harvey Klinger)
Family is the most ubiquitous and persistent human social group. Everyone across the world has a family, even if that family has been lost, broken, or transformed. And now, acclaimed anthropologist Meredith Small, author of Our Babies, Ourselves, examines the very roots of the family and why this particular type of connection is so fundamental to all cultures and all people.
Previous books about family are self-help books designed to start, build, or repair broken families. Family: How the Human Need for Connection Shapes Our Lives is something different. Small seeks to understand why this particular form of social organization is the bedrock of human interaction. Why do we form families? Why do people place such importance on their family relationships? And what is the reality of family life—does it live up to our expectations? What do families provide for each of us?
Small takes the reader on a journey from the evolutionary roots of family three million years ago to its present-day varied expression. We read that there is fossil evidence of human groups that could be called families, and extensive archaeological finds that when humans settled down and started to grow their own food and build villages and cities, they did so as families.
But within this common framework of a family, there are also complex iterations of the way families are formed and operate. Across the globe, various forms of marriage, parenting, and types of family differ from the Western template of a family of Mom+Dad+kids. People have developed families of all stripes, adapting the notion of family to their own worldview, religious beliefs, and economic necessities.
Meredith F. Small is a classically trained anthropologist, and Professor Emerita at Cornell University, where Small was an award-winning teacher for over thirty years. Small was hailed “the Margaret Mead of our generation” by the President of the American Anthropological Association, and has published numerous books for the popular audience, Inventing the World: Venice and the Transformation of Western Civilization, Here Begins the Dark Sea: How a 15th Century Venetian Monk Drew the Most Accurate Map of the World and Foresaw the Future, Our Babies, Ourselves, Kids: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Raise Our Children, and What’s Love Got to Do With It.

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