A guide to “tiny t” trauma and how to overcome it so that we can thrive, not merely survive. Based on 20 years of professional research and practice, this book will change the way we look at, understand and deal with trauma, and the common problems that unresolved tiny t creates such as anxiety, perfectionism and low mood. Includes techniques and exercises for dealing with tiny t.
TINY T TRAUMAS:
Take Control of Your Past, Present and Your Future and Live the Life You Deserve
by Dr. Meg Arroll
HarperCollins UK, publication date TBD
(via Dorie Simmonds Agency)
Do you feel just a bit crap, most of the time? We’re not talking major depression here but rather that constant underlying feeling of being underwater, struggling beneath the surface of life. It’s because of your tiny t – the small, everyday traumas that you’ve endured all your life which have led you to living on autopilot, slightly numb to the world. This book will show you how to come alive once again – and flourish, rather than languish, in a life less lived.
Mental health is now finally being recognised as having as important a part to play in our overall sense of well-being and understanding the role of tiny ts in our lives is crucial for mental well-being. Tiny t trauma happens to everyone, so the book is for anyone that feels they’re sleepwalking through life – or banging their head against life’s brick wall. This book will bring value to readers as it finally tells people why they feel so underwhelmed and under-fulfilled when nothing in particular is ‘wrong’. This is the hinterland in between mental wellness and illness, where you’re not quite symptomatic enough to receive a diagnosis or mental health care, but certainly aren’t flourishing or bossing life – all caused by small yet cumulative everyday traumas.
There are an inexhaustible tiny t traumas and everyone has their completely unique constellation of experiences and circumstances, so it can be difficult to express them clearly – it’s that tip of your tongue phenomenon where you know something’s not ok, but because we usually talk about mental health in terms of the Big T traumas such as abuse or critical early life trauma, we’re struggling for the words to even understand it. Tiny t is almost intangible and there’s a huge gap in the evidence base because of the way we conceptualise trauma – we look at the big, the bad and the ugly, not so much at the subtle, insidious and everyday that affects us all
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