Jay Shetty, thought leader and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller THINK LIKE A MONK, offers a revelatory guide to every stage of love, drawing on ancient wisdom and new science.
8 RULES OF LOVE
by Jay Shetty
Simon & Schuster, January 2023
(via Levine Greenberg Rostan)
As he did with THINK LIKE A MONK, Shetty offers advice from his unique background and experience, combining ancient wisdom with modern social science. In a world awash in guides to romance, 8 RULES OF LOVE is a genuinely fresh take. It doesn’t include pickup lines or give advice on how to change yourself or your partner. Instead, it is about embracing your preferences and hopes, so you don’t waste time on people who aren’t good for you. It’s about learning how to display your values, and letting go of any anger, greed, ego, self-doubt, and confusion that clouds your heart and interferes with your ability to love.
Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love. He tackles the entire relationship cycle, from first dates to moving in together to marriage to kids to breaking up and starting over. And he shows how to avoid falling for false promises and unfulfilling partners, helping readers recognize when it’s time to let love go. 8 RULES OF LOVE results in an inspiring and empowering read.
“Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love, so we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. I want to help you deal with the challenges and imperfections we encounter on the journey to love. I want you to create a love that grows every day, expanding and evolving rather than achieved and complete. We can’t know where and when we’ll find love, but we can prepare for it and practice what we’ve learned when we find it. Love is about learning to love ourselves in order to love others. I hope this book helps you do just that.”
Jay Shetty is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, award-winning storyteller, podcast host, and former monk, dedicated to helping people train their mind for peace and purpose every day. In 2017, Forbes named him to their 30 Under 30 List for his game-changing impact in media. His viral videos have been viewed more than 10 billion times and he is followed by over 50 million people across social media. In 2019, Jay created On Purpose, now the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. He’s been a keynote speaker around the world, invited to Google, Microsoft, Netflix and American Express, among many others. Over two million people have attended his Online School, and his Genius Coaching community provides weekly programming on health and wellness to thousands of members in over 100 countries.
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